Desperate Relationships !!!

Came across this phrase while listening to a talk show on Meow..
I know it's a all women radio station but then what the heck ?
Ever since I heard this phrase I couldn't stop thinking about it..

Desperate Relationships or DR's ....It kinda reminds of Desperate
Housewives but its no where related to that or my previous
post with a similar title..

The way I see, DR's is a class of relationships which can be
characterized by some basic/common traits. A DR stands for a
relationship in which someone enters to either cater to a strong
unfulfilled emotional(or physical) need or to run away from some
grim realities of one's life.

A careful look around yourself will reveal that this is not as
uncommon as it sounds..The causes and symptoms may vary but
sadly the outcomes are almost all the same. A potential symptom
for a DR is when deep down the people involved
(at least one of them) knows that this won't last long. It's not
uncommon to find someone who just got out of a serious
relationship get into another (apparently) serious one in almost
no time or to find someone whose already in a relationship trying
to get into another one for some unmet wants/needs..

These wants and needs could arise due to various reasons ranging
from facing phases of extreme loneliness in their lives to the
unsaid social/peer pressures of being single for quite a while.
Think about it.. Don't you know someone who got into a wrong
relationship just because she couldn't handle all sorts of pressures
(emotional, social etc) of being in mid/late 20's and single ?
or someone who got into a sinking relationship because almost all
of his school and college( or maybe work) friends were in
some sort of relationship ?

A relationship that begins in such circumstances is bound to hit
the rocks sooner or later and what's sad is that it takes down along
with it the people involved in it, particularly the emotionally
sensitive one or the who got into it without enough consideration..
Thus causing a further downfall which can potentially lead to
disastrous psychological consequences particularly when someone
has already been through a lot in their life.

Saying all that I think it would be wise for people who've been
through a tough time in their previous relationships to give
themselves enough time and thought before boarding this ship
otherwise ................................

Trivia:
1) Another term for a DR could be Comfort Relationship, a relationship
which might give a sense of comfort to the involved people in the short
run but won't last long.

Me, Myself and My Randomness

Dated:9th Aug

After having an okiesh day at office I left for home(with some emotional
baggage). Thought of meeting my best friend in order to talk things out
and feel better but unluckily or luckily our rendezvous couldn't happen.
Took a Cab for home from Dhaula Kuan along with 3 other people
including a stylish guy with a pony. After being lost in my own world for
10 minutes or so I started to over hear what the guy with a pony was
talking on his phone.

"Nahi yaar tu usse jaane de, agar usse khud hi galat nahi
lag raha toh theek hai" "Agar tu mera bhai hai toh usse kuch
mat bolna main tere se haath jod ke request karta hun"

Needless to say after overhearing this I was Intrigued and started one of
my favorite time pass games "Guess, what they are talking about". Soon
I thought the better of it and thought of starting a conversation and
asking him what's wrong .

Me: Hi, I am sorry but I kinda overheard your conversation.
Waise generally speaking how comfortable would a person be
about talking his/her problems with a complete stranger ?
etc etc...
Pony Guy: Hmm Ya, at times it happens that people are so overflowing
with emotions that they can share anything with anyone even a complete stranger.
Me: blah blah
Pony Guy: blah blah

That's how we started talking and kept going on and on. He started telling
me what was he talking about on phone

"My girlfriend made a friend about 6 months back and she wants
to go n wish him birthday at 12 in the night, I feel this is not kinda
right, though she asked me to join her. I mean giving a call at night
etc is ok but going to wish someone at that hour is not ok"
"Maine toh usse mana kara hai but if she still goes then there will
be some trouble"

Honestly speaking I was anticipating something bigger given
all the issues that I have been getting to know for quite a while now.
Exchanged a few sentences about where we worked,lived etc and then
again we were talking about his problem, I also got so engrossed that
I skipped my stop and went on...
{Every time I have to make a decision like this I ask myself do I do this
regularly and since the answer is mostly NO I happily go ahead}.

Took an auto from where the Cab dropped us and then this guy
(we don't know each other's name as yet) asked me "Do you drink?"
Me: Yes but occasionally and beer mostly
Pony Guy: Beer peeni hai ?

Next 10 minutes saw us sipping a king fisher in auto, never thought
I would be drinking beer in an auto. We drank and talked till we got to
our destination.Not knowing my appetite he had got 2 beers so we
found a suitable place on the main road to finish off the other bottle.
Heart to Heart talks followed.
I Got to know more about his life story n he got to know a bit about mine
(Mind you this was the first time I opened a portion of my heart out to someone).

By now the hours hand of the clock had reached between 9 n 10 and
needless to say he was feeling lighter/better and I slightly high(drunk).
The job was done so we decided to head home and exchanged numbers
(Initially I was keen to keep it anonymous) n the icing on the cake of
coincidence was that we both shared the same surname.

Trivia:
1) I had a similar experience 6-7 months back in my previous
company with a girl working in our BPO dept.
2) Realized each couple has a unique set of issues.
3) I have this random thought of doing something of this sort
regularly in a slightly more organized manner. Lets see if
some comes about.