Monday, February 04, 2008

Desperate Relationships !!!

Came across this phrase while listening to a talk show on Meow..
I know it's a all women radio station but then what the heck ?
Ever since I heard this phrase I couldn't stop thinking about it..

Desperate Relationships or DR's ....It kinda reminds of Desperate
Housewives but its no where related to that or my previous
post with a similar title..

The way I see, DR's is a class of relationships which can be
characterized by some basic/common traits. A DR stands for a
relationship in which someone enters to either cater to a strong
unfulfilled emotional(or physical) need or to run away from some
grim realities of one's life.

A careful look around yourself will reveal that this is not as
uncommon as it sounds..The causes and symptoms may vary but
sadly the outcomes are almost all the same. A potential symptom
for a DR is when deep down the people involved
(at least one of them) knows that this won't last long. It's not
uncommon to find someone who just got out of a serious
relationship get into another (apparently) serious one in almost
no time or to find someone whose already in a relationship trying
to get into another one for some unmet wants/needs..

These wants and needs could arise due to various reasons ranging
from facing phases of extreme loneliness in their lives to the
unsaid social/peer pressures of being single for quite a while.
Think about it.. Don't you know someone who got into a wrong
relationship just because she couldn't handle all sorts of pressures
(emotional, social etc) of being in mid/late 20's and single ?
or someone who got into a sinking relationship because almost all
of his school and college( or maybe work) friends were in
some sort of relationship ?

A relationship that begins in such circumstances is bound to hit
the rocks sooner or later and what's sad is that it takes down along
with it the people involved in it, particularly the emotionally
sensitive one or the who got into it without enough consideration..
Thus causing a further downfall which can potentially lead to
disastrous psychological consequences particularly when someone
has already been through a lot in their life.

Saying all that I think it would be wise for people who've been
through a tough time in their previous relationships to give
themselves enough time and thought before boarding this ship
otherwise ................................

Trivia:
1) Another term for a DR could be Comfort Relationship, a relationship
which might give a sense of comfort to the involved people in the short
run but won't last long.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Dejavu