Psychologies

I am particularly fond of a Q/A section in Tehelka by the
same name. In this post I'll try to answer the questions
asked in the latest issue of Tehelka(31st May) for myself.

Q1) What do you miss most about childhood ?
A1) Relaxed and easy paced life, not worrying much about
things other than studies. Simple thinking with less
responsibilities and less facades. Back then I had more time
and less things to do, these days its just the opposite.
Also, I was physically more active then.

Q2) What makes you glad that you're at this age.
A2) I can take all sorts of decisions for myself. I am
financially independent and understand things at
a much deeper level then what I could even imagine during
my childhood. Also, that I understand myself better.

Q3) What kind of people repel you?
A3) People who crib too much about things without really
making any efforts to change things. People who exploit
the weak and less fortunate. Most politicians and lastly
those who are extremely materialistic.

Q4) What is the biggest dilemma you have faced?
A4) Biggest dilemma that I've faced and still continue
to face would be "what would be the perfect way to lead the second
innings of my life and how to go about it"

Q5) So what do you think of marriage now?
A5) Firstly not everyone is supposed to get married and
secondly I feel those who decide to get married should
be mentally prepared to give what it takes to make it a
success. Its much much difficult than it sounds.

Q6) So would you prefer a live-in relationship to marriage?
A6) Hmmm.. No, I don't think so.

Q7) What would you change about yourself?
A7) I'd like to be in control of myself a bit more both emotionally
and spiritually. Also, be a better time manager.

Q8) What do you think of the Indian youth?
A8) Indian youth is going through a phase of self-discovery and
exposure to a bit too many things in very less time and
this era of "Instant Gratification" is taking its toll too. I feel
they need to think a bit about the things that they don't think
at all about to make better sense of things around.

Q9) What about the man-woman divide?
A9) It's unfortunate that there still exists this divide in
many parts of the country but I hope with time and efforts
that are going in this direction things will be better in
future.

Q10) So you think women are less empowered?
A10) If I look around then I don't think so but yes in general
I feel they are. While I feel they should be more empowered
at the same time I hope they don't loose touch their real/true
self on the path to empowerment and post it.

Q11) What would you never change about yourself?
A11) *thinking*........
Giving some quality time to myself and those close to me.
The habit of thinking a lot and without bounds. My observant
nature and ability to not loose cool in most situations and
lastly being able to act irresponsibly and kiddish whenever the
situation permits me.

I'd like to tag the following to answer the above mentioned
questions .

Faded_Glory, Kaa, Smriti,
Sanjukta

7 Din, Ladki IN..

This post intends to share experiences of a friend with
some girl over the last week and shouldn't be taken too
seriously.

It all started about two weeks back @CCD when this 25 years
old friend of mine decided its high time that he's
single(not to suggest that he was single all this while)
and he should get a girl in his life.

So since this friend is more offline person than online
(unlike ME) he took one of the few/common ways of
approaching a new girl i.e by taking a couple of phone
numbers from another friend and started smsing them.
Though I don't have the details I presume something of
this sort must've happened

1st SMS --> some random kinda cute, friendship wala forward
1st reply --> who r u ? do i knw u ?
2nd SMS --> hmm..I am xyz, I kinda know you though you
don't blah-blah
2nd reply --> how did you get my number ?
3rd SMS --> from here starts the 20-20 of lies, flattery,
exaggeration, flirting and God knows what.

So luckily this friend was able to clear(easily) the screening
round as the girl in question gave her a call back after a
few smses but to ensure she doesn't look easy in anyway she
insisted on knowing how the guy got her number which to anyone
whose familiar with this game knows is often a superficial
concern which still needs to be replied however vaguely in
order for the talks to proceed.

"Well I'll tell you how I got your number but not now,maybe
when we meet up for lunch" .Yes this and trust me I've seen
it work quite often. In most cases successfully evading this
question for the first two conversations is the best answer
because after that when both people are in the process of
knowing each other it doesn't really matter.

Day 2 and 3 sees them talking a couple of times once in morning
and again in the evenings.

Day 4 and 5 sees the evening talks stretch to night, and its
obvious that once you start talking to someone late in the night
the game changes which changes with it the content of talks
which sooner or later will come down to SEX.

What I particularly found surprising was the fact that when it
started off the girl was in commanding position. I have to go
now, I am busy lets talk later etc etc and in just 5 days the
positions have been swapped. I vividly remember day before
yesterday the guy had to literally plead to keep the phone down
in order to have his dinner, she agreed only after the guy
promised to call her after exactly 15 minutes.

But what I saw yesternight was toh amazing. The guy was supposed
to call at night but forgot so the girl called up 1ish but the
guy was too tired to talk so requested if he could sleep NO came
in the reply. I was incidentally spending my night at his place
and had a really hard time waking him up after every 2 minutes
of lull while still on phone and surprisingly every time he woke
up a bit to resume the conversation with a characteristic "hmmm"
the girl was there(probably talking). Finally the guy woke up,
munched something and moved to another room and came back after
an hour smiling looking more tired but satisfied.

The Hot-Crazy Scale !!

One of my favorite scenes from "How I Met Your Mother".

I totally buy this funda and feel its common place.




So what do you think ?

3rd Habitat Film Festival

IHC's film club is organizing 3rd Habitat Film Festival.

The festival spans across 12 days(till 18th May 08) and will include lots of
regional films and a retrospective on "Sudhir Mishra" of
"Hazaaron Khwaishen Aisi" fame.

Two films will be screened in the evenings on weekedays
and four films will be screened on the weekends.

you can checkout the schedule here
http://www.habitatfilmclub.com/filmcalendar.asp

Entry is supposedly free and tickets are available at the venue itself.
You can also expect some celebrities there.

See you at IHC